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Hi, everyone. I'm Brené Brown, and this is Unlocking
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Us. Welcome
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back to our new eight-part series that
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I am calling On My Heart and
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Mind. We started the
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series with my conversation with Valerie Korr on
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the power of revolutionary love and being a
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sage warrior. I have talked
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to Dr. Sarah Lewis on her
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stunning new book, The Unseen Truth,
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and my friend and Unlocking Us
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alum Roxanne Gay. And I had
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a, wow, just a
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really eye-opening and provocative conversation
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about her essay on black gun
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ownership. Before the series
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is done, you'll also hear from me
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and my sisters on grief, love, and
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unexpected joy. And this
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episode is all about the pause,
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about the menopause. I'm
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talking to my friend, also
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my doctor, one of them, Dr.
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Mary Claire Haver, who is on
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the kind of zero-bullshit policy
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with menopause and helping
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so many of us understand what's going
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on, what's not going on, and
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we jump in, let me tell you a little bit about Mary Claire Haver.
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Dr. Haver is a board certified
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obstetrician and gynecologist. She graduated
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from LSU Medical Center. She completed
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her residency at the University
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of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston.
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She is a certified
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medical specialist and menopause
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society certified menopause practitioner.
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In 2021, she established Mary Claire Wellness,
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a clinic dedicated to providing comprehensive care
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for menopausal patients. In
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2023, she published her first book, The Galveston
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Diet. I discovered her before
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I saw her, actually. She's in my neck of the
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woods, so it made it easy to see her. I
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discovered her on social media. She has, I
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think, 4 million followers across platforms.
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And she's so good at
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demystifying information, backing up claims
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with really solid research. I
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just am a huge fan. If you do know
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her, this is a fun conversation. If you have
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not met her, I'm so excited that you get
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to meet her. We're going
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to talk about her new book, The
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New Menopause, Navigating Your Path Through Hormonal
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Change with Purpose, Power, and Facts. And
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let's jump in. Okay,
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I just have to say for everybody listening, Mary Claire and
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I just keep looking at each other going, are you
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ready? Are you ready? Are you ready? I'm
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so excited. Dr. Mary Claire Haver, thank you
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for being on Unlocking Us. Oh my gosh,
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thank you so much for having me. I'm
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loving it. I look forward to this conversation for a month.
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I have to tell everybody, I want this claim to
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fame. I was following
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you, Mary Claire
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Haver, before Mary Claire Haver was cool. Just tell
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them it's true. It's absolutely true.
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I think I found out you followed
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me when I had like three followers.
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And I was like, oh my God,
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that was amazing. So yeah, you're an OG.
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I'm an OG, what are we
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calling ourselves now? The menopossi? The
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menopossi. And MP. The menopossi,
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yeah. Yeah, and MP. All
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right, I'm going to start with tell us your
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story. I want to know all
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about you. I
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mean, like, where were you born? Take us
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through high school. Sure. I
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was born in Lafayette, Louisiana. I'm
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one of eight children to the same parents. I
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grew up in Lafayette, went to high school at
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a small, well, big for
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Lafayette, at the Catholic school system and
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the Catholic high school. And
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then one of my older brothers went to college. The rest did not.
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I enrolled in the local university in
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my town, which was U.S.L. at the
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time, but they've changed the name to
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U.L.L., University of Louisiana at Lafayette, because
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we were broke and I could walk
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there and actually got
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a fabulous education and
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worked my way through. So it took
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me five years, no regrets. And have
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an undergraduate degree in geology of
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all things, but no one was majoring
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in it at the time because, and I loved it.
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I didn't know I was going to be a scientist
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when I grew up. I thought I'd be an actress
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or ballerina, but I had to
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take a science class and that one sounded cool. And
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I absolutely was a fish in water. And it was
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one of those moments where I'm like, I
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think I'm smart. Like, is
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that a thing? Like, I didn't try in high
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school. I just kind of showed up, did my
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thing, graduated the middle of my class. Everybody was
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happy and went to college because
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that's kind of what you did. And I didn't like the
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options available to me at the time if I didn't go,
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right? So. But
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I really kind of found my academic
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chutzpah when I was in university and
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took the geology class, fell in love with science,
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and I took another one. And then I took
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a third one and they're like, hey, we have some
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scholarship money over here and I'm working my way through
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school. So I was like, well, that sounds
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cool. Let's see what happens. And ended
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up almost at 4.0, did great, got
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a scholarship to study in New Zealand,
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went to New. So I've worked for an oil
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company as my little part-time job through college. And
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they basically had a job ready for me. Then
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I get this scholarship to go study abroad. So
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I go do it and while I'm down there, I have this
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whole like, this is not my
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path. I love this as science,
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but as far as sitting at a desk drilling
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oil wells for the next 50 years, this
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is not gonna be for me. And
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the host family that I was down there
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with were all in medicine and they're like,
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you should think about doing something medical. So
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I wrapped that up, got back to the States,
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went back to work and
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told my boss, I think I'm gonna apply to
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medical school and had to take one year of
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organic chemistry. I didn't have the right level of
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O chem. I was gonna ask if
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you had O chem. I had everything
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I needed to apply, but O chem.
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So he's like, and I said, listen,
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the class is on this day, this
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time, he said, make it up on
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the weekends. So I would walk in
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my little outfit with my heels to
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my class, take my class. The lab
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was like all Wednesday afternoon. I looked
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like Merlin, pouring all these beakers and
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creating potions and then would walk back
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to my job. And I applied
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to med school that year, so I
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got accepted contingent upon passing organic chemistry,
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which I did. And so
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I got to medical school as a
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geologist. Everyone is nodding along
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at the first class and I am
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lost, lost. What are they
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talking about? I learned none of this in undergrad. And
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I was like, all the loans
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were so expensive. I'm like, I'm stuck, I have
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to figure this out. And I did, just
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tripled down, found some great study partners.
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and finished medical school top
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of my class. Wow. Yeah.
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And met my husband, Chris,
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when I was working at the oil company, and he
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actually helped me fill out my applications and helped me
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write my personal statement. And so
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we got married between my junior
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and senior year of medical school, and
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we didn't actually live together full time
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until I started residency, just because logistics
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and where he was working and medical
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school and everything. So I teased
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my children. We did it backwards. We didn't move in together
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until we'd been married for a year. So
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we still
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survived. We survived. And in medical
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school, I decided OB-GYN. That
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was my last rotation of my third year,
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and I absolutely fell in love with the drama,
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fell in love with the babies and all
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the things, but really grew to
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love as I practiced. Once I
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got out of training, the gynecology part
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of it, the one-on-one relationship with
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my patients. And so
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I was a
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academic professor teaching residents, teaching medical
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students. I was a program director
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in charge of the curriculum for
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the residents for over 10
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years. So it was when I
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started going through menopause and my patients were
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going through it with me. So my patients
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were aging with me as I was getting
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older. I was having babies. They
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were having babies, right? So you kind of age up with
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your patients in general. And I
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started realizing, I don't
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know enough about menopause. I would have
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told you I was a great menopause provider until I actually
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was menopausal. And everyone
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was complaining of weight gain. And
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I was terrified of hormone therapy because
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of the fallout from the Women's Health Initiative.
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And everything I know now
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about menopause care is basically self-taught in what
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I learned through the Menopause Society. So
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in 2018, I left the university, and
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I became a hospitalist because I really wanted to figure out
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how am I going to focus on menopause? How
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am I going to do this? Because in a 15-minute
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visit with a patient's feet It's really
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not enough time to unpack the menopause
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trauma. But I was terrified to
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give up my surgical privileges. We worked so hard
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for that. So I became a hospitalist so I
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could go part time and still operate and do
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all the things, keep up my skill
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set. And then COVID hit. So
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being a hospitalist during COVID, I've never worked
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more hours in my life. So grateful to
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have been part of the solution and doing
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patient care. My husband was so
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frustrated sitting at home and I get to run away and
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go to the hospital. But once things calmed
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down, I decided, OK, I'm going to go for
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it. And Chris and all my friends were like,
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just try it. Because I was like, I don't know if anybody will come see
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me as a menopause vet.
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Like, who's going to come to a
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menopause doctor? I can't afford to take
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insurance because, again, 15-minute visits. And
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he said, open the doors, see
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what happens, price it reasonably,
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and just try. If
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you feel you can always go back and go back and do perhaps
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mirrors or whatever you want to do, which is an honorable thing
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to do. Really, very
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few people in the Houston area were doing this.
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So on a wing and a prayer, I took my
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girlfriends out to dinner. We kind of walked
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through how to run a clinic. And
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I threw up a shingle and it
11:11
was extremely successful. And now
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we've just hired number four nurse practitioners to
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help us expand the clinics and was able
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to write the book and talk about my
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experiences. And here I am today. I
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am so frickin' glad that I asked
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you about your story because I didn't
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know your story. Wait,
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where are you in birth order with these
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eight folks? Fifth. So let me
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expand on that a little bit. So I have
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four older brothers. They were born within five years.
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Me and my- I was wondering if you were the first girl. My
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sister, then my two little brothers. And there's
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about a five-year gap between the boys and
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then the second family, as my mom always
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called it. So Jett,
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the oldest, was diagnosed
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with acute lymphocytic leukemia when my
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mom was pregnant with the fourth
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son. They almost
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lost him a Hail Mary drive. up
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to Memphis. He was one of the first patients at
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St. Jude's. They were able to get him in remission
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while my mother was taken across the street for
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preterm labor. Can you imagine the stress? You
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know, while we were living with grandmothers and
12:12
aunts and we're all dispersed around our hometown
12:14
while they're fighting for my brother's life. So
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he goes into remission. He's doing
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great. Everybody comes home. We go back to normal
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life. My mom has, so I
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have my little sister and then my mom
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gets pregnant. Jeff comes out of remission
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at about 18, 17 and a half maybe.
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I'm like seven. Okay. So the
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whole next three years of my life are keeping
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him alive. Right? Like that's all I remember is
12:37
hospital visits and doctors and he's in
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remission. He's out of remission. And so
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he's fighting, fighting, fighting. My mom gets
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pregnant for number seven. And
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then Jeff dies when mom is
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about six months pregnant for Jeremiah.
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And then we have Jeremiah and then
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she couple of years later has my
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baby brother John. But that was a
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defining moment in our family. Like everything
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changed after his death. My
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parents, I don't know how
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they survived it. Very rarely does the
13:07
couple survive the death of a child.
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So off we go under real life, college,
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med school, oil field downturn.
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My parents go bankrupt. I'm
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struggling to get through college. I made it.
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Everything's fine and great life lessons there. Bob,
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my second brother was gay. He
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passed away. So I'll tell you his story. So, you
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know, I had this one fabulous brother who was so
13:30
much fun to have as an older brother. He would
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dress me up, put makeup on me, make me close.
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He had a sewing machine. He was one
13:36
of my best friends and, you know, coached
13:38
me through cheerleading in high school, practiced
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with me for drama. And then he
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developed HIV and hepatitis as a lot
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of men did. And he'd been
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with the same partner for 35 years. So
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Bob in 2015, which is part of
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my menopause story, had been
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fighting end-stage hepatitis, basically. And
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we get the call. that
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he's had a stroke and he's in the
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hospital. He's alive, but his brain's not
14:04
functioning that well. And then we get another call
14:06
that he's in a coma. So, I
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rush home and my sister and
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I, she
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was a hospice nurse at the time. We did
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his end-of-life care. And it was a beautiful way
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to die, with all your family around you. So,
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you know, he also had some behavior
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choices that he was
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never able to kick, that probably hastened his path
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to death. And I had
14:28
to deal with loving him through those choices
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and accepting that. And I
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really fell apart after his death. My
14:36
leave was given at the hospital. I wasn't able
14:38
to take much time off because I took so
14:40
much time to do his end-of-life care. And
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I was just like put a band-aid on myself
14:45
and like, you know, go to work and I
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would cry all the way home and cry all
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the way there, like get the emotions out and
14:51
then patch myself together to take care of him.
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The meantime, I'm in menopause. Like, I don't know
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it. So I had
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stopped my contraception right
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before he got really sick at the end. And,
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you know, what I was attributing to
15:05
grief, definitely there was grief involved.
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You know, I'm not gonna knock the psychological
15:09
impact of that on me. But I was
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like, hot flashes, body aches, not sleeping. And
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I'm thinking, oh, I'm just grieving, I'm grieving,
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I'm grieving. Then when the grief fog started
15:18
to lift, like six months later, I'm still
15:20
having all these symptoms. And then I'm like,
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when was your last period? Oh,
15:25
my God. Like, I didn't have regular periods ever,
15:27
so this wasn't unusual for me. And I was
15:29
48, so on the young end. And
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then I was like, I think you're in
15:34
menopause. Like, I guess let myself, you know,
15:36
like, I couldn't even realize this was
15:38
my job. Yeah, I know, I know. That
15:41
I was menopausal, like fully. And
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was absolutely miserable and terrified for myself to
15:46
start a tortilla. Basically went to the woman
15:48
who was taking care of me at the
15:50
time and said, my clinician, and we
15:52
just had a heart to heart. And I was like, I
15:54
can't live like this. I'll just take
15:56
the risk. And I didn't realize that
15:58
the risks have been so overstated. and overblown
16:00
and really had been walked back. I'm still following
16:02
the 2002 guidelines. And
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I reluctantly went on HRT,
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terrified. Absolutely life-changing
16:11
for me. How? I
16:14
got my resilience back. I
16:17
was flying off the handle at everything.
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I didn't realize the hit to my mental health.
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I didn't realize the hit to my cognition. You
16:24
know, I just thought I was getting older. Like,
16:26
I was forgetting the keys I get in the
16:29
car at and nowhere was going. I was struggling
16:31
to like, just common words. I was struggling with
16:33
patients to explain things that were just so easy
16:35
to me before. And I really
16:37
thought, am I having early dementia? My grandmother had
16:40
horrible dementia. And then
16:43
when I started HRT within six weeks,
16:45
I'm sleeping through the night again, hot
16:47
flashes have gone away, and I'm just
16:49
feeling like I've got myself back. And
16:52
at the same time, I'm going through
16:55
the weight gain. So I was changing
16:57
my nutrition, changing my exercise. Making so
16:59
many life changes at that time. You
17:01
know, looking at my brother and his
17:03
life choices and how that affected him
17:05
and realizing we had the same genetics.
17:07
So my brother right above
17:09
me, Jude, so right after Bob dies,
17:13
I get a phone call that Jude's in the
17:15
hospital and they see a
17:17
mass. My sister-in-law was a radiologist
17:19
technician, so she's sending me pictures of
17:21
his scans. And I'll never forget,
17:24
I was at a meeting at a restaurant, and
17:26
I was like, excuse me, and I'm picking up
17:28
the phone and I'm seeing the images come through
17:30
from my sister-in-law, and it's giant masses in my
17:32
brother's liver. And I just
17:35
was like, I can't, I can't do this
17:37
right now. You know, like, I'm just barely
17:39
recovering from Bob. And
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he ended up having metastatic
17:44
esophageal cancer, stage
17:46
four, widely metastatic. By the time he was
17:48
diagnosed, I've fought that for two years. COVID,
17:51
in the middle of COVID, we're sneaking across
17:53
the border to go help him and go
17:55
try to see him and spend time with
17:57
him. When all the craziness of COVID was
17:59
happening. And he's like, I don't care
18:01
if I die of COVID. Please come and see me. I love
18:03
you. I miss you. And so
18:05
we got him through that. I
18:07
did his end of life care. And
18:10
then my dad died nine months later.
18:13
And so I don't
18:15
know how my mom has done it. You know,
18:18
three kids, her husband, she's
18:20
87. She's not doing well. It's
18:23
just, yeah, been a lot. But part
18:26
of what motivates me and keeps
18:29
me going and fighting the kind of
18:32
people who aren't pro women
18:34
having great health into their last 30,
18:36
40 years of their life, I'm
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just saying I will not stand down. I will fight
18:41
for the health of women for every
18:43
decade of her life, especially the last
18:46
three or four. Because now,
18:48
today, Brené, I'm 56. I
18:51
am healthier. I'm wealthier. I
18:53
have better relationship. I have better boundaries.
18:56
What I've got with my children now, I
18:59
want every woman to have. But
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had I not addressed my menopause
19:03
in realizing that the way the
19:06
health care system is currently set up is
19:08
not built to serve a woman after reproduction,
19:12
studies aren't done on females throughout her reproductive life.
19:14
It's harder to study females because we have hormonal
19:16
changes. And then when hormones walk out the door
19:18
in menopause, women are just
19:20
kind of left behind. We forever in medicine,
19:23
forever in studies, have been assumed to be
19:25
small men with breasts and uteruses. And so
19:27
we'll just study the men and we'll just
19:29
apply what we've learned to
19:32
females. What's happened, the end result of
19:34
that, is that females are
19:36
living 20% of their lives in
19:39
poorer health than their male counterparts. We're
19:41
much more likely to have dementia and Alzheimer's.
19:44
We're much more likely to lose our
19:46
independence and old age and require nursing
19:49
home care. It's three to one. And
19:52
so when my patients come in now that
19:55
I just focused on these last few decades, we
19:58
put out the menopause fires the best way. We
20:00
can't HRT not HRT nutrition extra to that.
20:03
And then we start try to help her chart that course
20:05
for the next 30 years. Cause I'm
20:07
like, tell me about your mom. Tell
20:09
me about your aunt's how's their health. And
20:11
when they're like, she's 95, she's
20:14
cooking, she's cleaning, she's doing great. She's playing with
20:16
it. I'm like, let's do what she's doing. But
20:18
for most women, that's not the case. There's a
20:20
reason it's a place for mom. Okay.
20:23
There's a reason there's a company called a place for mom and
20:25
not for dad. For mom is
20:27
that we are not enjoying the health
20:29
that we could because I think one
20:31
of the main things is we're not
20:33
addressing menopause and that
20:36
these studies were never known on females.
20:39
And that's my focus and advocacy
20:41
and trying to get increased funding
20:43
in the NIH for women's health
20:46
after reproduction. I
20:48
can see how
20:51
your fight is fueled by
20:54
the love of your family and the loss of your brothers. And
20:59
I've put off this conversation with you for as
21:01
long as I can put it off like the podcast. I mean,
21:03
you and I've had plenty of conversations off the record. I'm
21:08
so pissed off
21:13
and I got so much like if I
21:15
get through this without crying, I don't know,
21:17
I got so much grief from
21:20
my mom. Like
21:22
when I started following you, she
21:25
was already in the throes of dementia.
21:29
And I thought about all
21:31
the things that corroded
21:35
her life. I mean,
21:37
her frozen shoulder, all
21:39
of these things that doctor
21:41
after doctor said, you know, we're in
21:43
your head and
21:46
the UTIs and the dementia and
21:49
the don't get close to HR to
21:52
any kind of hormone therapy. And
21:54
my mom just frickin'
21:57
as the survivor that she is. just
22:00
slugging it out until
22:02
you can't win, until
22:05
she's just dying. And
22:08
she doesn't know who we are except maybe
22:11
in flashes. And
22:13
what do you make of
22:16
the collective grief and rage? Do you see
22:18
it or is it just me? No,
22:20
it's not just you because I talk to women
22:22
every day and it is
22:25
the rare patient who
22:28
is not watching their mother not
22:30
live a
22:33
healthful life who is plagued with something
22:35
for decades. You know, no one expects
22:37
to get out of this alive. We
22:39
all know something's going to take us
22:41
out one day. Right. Yeah.
22:44
But the collective experience of
22:46
females and the way we
22:49
were trained to address female
22:51
complaints is we're taking
22:53
something biological and assigning a
22:55
psychological cause. And we
22:57
are basically small emotional men. There's
23:00
a reason why hysterical is a word
23:02
and we don't have testarical. And
23:05
that has got to stop. That has got to
23:07
stop. Now, light at the end of
23:09
the tunnel here. My daughter is in medical school. She's
23:12
a second year. She is well
23:14
aware. Her classmates are well aware
23:16
and they are not going
23:19
to put up with this. They're going to
23:21
believe they're female patients. And just automatically when
23:23
you come up blank as a clinician, not
23:25
to automatically assume it's all in her head.
23:28
So I think there's hope for the future.
23:31
We are slowly, slowly, slowly getting more
23:33
and more research funding dollars into health
23:36
after reproduction for females drops in the
23:38
bucket so far. But there is awareness.
23:42
And I think we're going to get there.
23:44
I think it's going to take a generation. Things in medicine don't
23:46
move quickly. But I think
23:48
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Steve was in residency when
25:33
we got married. We did not live together.
25:35
I was in graduate school. We
25:38
commuted to see each other and we
25:40
got married in that one week
25:42
the residents have off between third
25:44
and fourth year. And we went
25:46
to San Francisco because we had
25:49
to go so we're really close
25:51
and there were six other residents
25:53
there on honeymoons from different
25:55
residency programs. So I speak that
25:57
language. pregnant
26:00
I was in my PhD program and
26:03
I had really,
26:06
really significant hyperemesis. And
26:11
the things that stand out
26:13
for me about getting pregnant in the PhD program is
26:15
that at the time there was a male head of
26:17
the PhD program who looked at me when I told
26:19
him I was pregnant and said, we
26:22
really thought you were going to be someone. We
26:24
really thought you were going to have a career.
26:26
And then I was like, Jesus, it's
26:28
a pregnancy, not a lobotomy. And then of
26:30
course I get very, very sick and
26:33
I have to take a leave of
26:35
absence because my multi-linear statistics professor would
26:38
not let me throw up in the
26:40
trash can during class. And
26:42
then when I had hyperemesis, I
26:45
had a female doctor and I picked her because she kind of looked
26:47
like a hippie and I thought this will be good for me. And
26:50
she said, I'm wondering what we
26:52
know about hyperemesis is, yeah,
26:55
are you worried about attention from
26:58
people shifting from you to the baby?
27:02
And is this a psychological reaction that you're
27:05
having? So I was
27:07
taught the same thing. I
27:09
was taught that there's a significant percentage
27:11
of hyperemesis. Now this was in the
27:14
90s. That is psychological.
27:16
We were putting people on antipsychotics
27:19
for hyperemesis. That
27:21
has been completely debunked. We have found
27:24
the receptor in the brain that is
27:26
causing this. And I have to shout
27:28
out to Shannon Clark writing Galveston, who
27:30
presented to the FDA. She's done the
27:32
most research on this and bravo for...
27:37
It's unbelievable to me who had
27:39
hyperemesis with number two, who would,
27:41
you know, stuck on I-10 and
27:43
traffic would open the truck door and throw up
27:45
it like, take off my lap and
27:49
throw up in the lab coat and just put
27:51
it on the side, you know, while I was
27:53
in the car on the way to go deliver
27:55
a baby. And this was before Zofran became widespread
27:57
use and all these new medications that, you know...
28:00
actually treat the root cause of
28:02
hyperemesis. But yeah, 15% of women
28:05
who are pregnant have significant
28:07
hyperemesis. And we were trained
28:10
that the majority of those, it
28:12
is attention-seeking or something psychological. And
28:14
she can't help it, but it
28:16
really is a psychological cause. I
28:19
mean, could you imagine? I've lost 18 pounds. I'm having to
28:22
get IV fluids. I
28:28
can't keep down anything.
28:30
And then I'm told that it's in
28:32
my head. And then
28:34
I start to think, oh my God, am
28:36
I going to be a shit mom? Like
28:38
what's happening? And I leave my OB-GYN for,
28:42
because Steve's a pediatrician. And I
28:45
go to one of his friends who I didn't want to go
28:48
to, because he's kind of like a good looking guy that I
28:50
know outside of the hospital. And I'm like, oh God,
28:52
okay. And he's like, what do you mean in
28:54
your head? And he's like, this
28:56
is not in your head. He's like, let me show you some
28:58
blood levels. Let me show you what's going on in your body.
29:00
I bet you've never had a miscarriage. And I said, I haven't.
29:02
And he said, yeah, your
29:05
progesterone levels are through the roof. It
29:07
would make an NFL player throw up all
29:09
day and night. You have these massive protective
29:11
factors going on. You've got probably some
29:13
gene stuff going on. My mom had
29:15
hypermosis. And he said, and you
29:17
might be better in 18 weeks and you may not.
29:19
And so at 18 weeks, I started swimming
29:22
a mile a day, including
29:24
the day I gave birth. I was in good shape. I was
29:26
lucky that way. But I
29:28
thought that could have upended
29:30
me almost permanently to be told like this
29:32
thing that I really wanted and that we were trying to
29:34
have happen, that I
29:36
was attention seeking. Like
29:40
what the actual hell.
29:43
So one of
29:45
the most popular
29:48
treatments for hot
29:50
flashes that is being
29:53
touted as, you know, this is
29:55
the route we should go, especially in Europe,
29:58
is cognitive behavioral therapy. Which
30:00
I love, you know, for a
30:02
multitude of things. I mean, I
30:04
love too, but shut up and
30:07
sit down. As a psychologist, cognitive
30:09
behavioral therapy, if you just outthink
30:11
your hot flash, if you change
30:13
your perception of your menopause, it's...
30:15
Yeah, okay. This
30:18
is today. We have got
30:20
to stop automatically attributing. I can't tell you
30:23
how many, you know, I read these research
30:25
papers all day, and when I get to
30:27
the inevitable, but this is a tough time
30:29
for women. This is a difficult time. Her
30:32
children are leaving. Her, you know, I'm like,
30:34
you never, I don't know, you know the
30:36
psychological research better than anybody. But I
30:39
don't see that when I read research studies
30:41
for men. I don't read a lot, but
30:43
you never see, it's a tough time in
30:45
his life when you look at erectile dysfunction.
30:47
He's really stressed out at work and all
30:49
these things, and it's automatically in so many
30:51
of these articles, so ingrained.
30:54
When we look at female sexual function, okay,
30:57
loss of libido. This is, and when we look
30:59
at it in a woman who's got no pain,
31:02
she can orgasm, we've ruled out the
31:04
anatomic causes, has a great relationship with
31:06
a partner, used to have a good
31:08
libido, and now it's gone, and
31:11
it's just stressing her. She misses it and she wants
31:13
it back. When I tell you that is
31:15
25% of my patient population, I
31:19
was taught nothing about that in
31:21
medical school or residency, and the
31:25
answers coming out of clinicians' mouths who I
31:27
think are well-meaning are, have
31:29
some wine, go on date night. Instead
31:32
of, this is biological, and
31:35
we have FDA-approved medications and testosterone
31:37
options for these patients. But
31:39
so many of the older research is it's
31:42
psychological. She doesn't love her husband, and she's
31:44
sitting here telling me, I have a great
31:46
relationship with this person. I've been with them
31:48
for X amount of time. This used to
31:50
be amazing for us, and now it's gone
31:52
for me and it's distressing me, and it
31:55
just kills me. I'm
31:57
automatically assuming there's something wrong with her here.
32:00
and that it's psychological or
32:02
attention-seeking instead of this is
32:04
a biological neurotransmitter change and
32:07
it is affecting that part of her brain. And we
32:09
have ways that we can fix it. I
32:12
follow you voraciously on social media.
32:14
Bless your heart. You're
32:17
really brave. And
32:20
you and I share the experience of kind of
32:22
being shot out of a cannon into that space.
32:24
That's a brutal, unhinged,
32:27
dysregulated space. Yes.
32:31
How has that been for you? I
32:34
got some great advice from actually Shannon Clark who kind
32:36
of blew up in the OBJEN space
32:38
on social media before I did and she
32:40
was kind of my guide through the early
32:42
days. And she said, if
32:45
something doesn't feel right or you're gonna do something you feel
32:47
like might be controversial, sit on it for 24 hours and
32:50
then go back and look at it. Take the emotion
32:53
out of it and then go
32:55
back and look at it. So that has been great
32:57
for me. That's great advice. The
33:00
menopause space is exploding and I've been shot
33:03
out of a cannon into it.
33:05
So we have people who
33:07
are downplaying the female experience. So
33:10
there's several things that are coming at me. One
33:13
that I'm causing women
33:15
because we're educating them as to what
33:17
might happen so they're prepared and have
33:19
a plan. That it's actually making the
33:21
experience worse for females. That we don't wanna educate
33:24
them because now they're gonna fixate on these things
33:26
and think that they have them. These
33:29
are PhD people saying this to
33:31
me. That we best
33:33
not, don't educate. Don't
33:35
educate them, yeah. Yeah, so the
33:38
don't educate them. The people
33:40
who are seeing a financial opportunity,
33:42
good or bad. Now, I have
33:44
financially benefited from this, full disclosure,
33:46
through my clinics, through Galveston Diet
33:48
and that whole world. But that
33:52
are creating plans or
33:54
supplements and promising miracle
33:56
cures. Real nutty shit, yeah. So
33:59
there's that. And
34:01
there's people who just don't
34:03
want other people speaking in the menopause
34:05
space, you know, early voices in the
34:07
menopause space who are feeling kind of left out
34:10
and left behind. And so what I
34:12
love about the menopause is it's a
34:14
group of thought leaders,
34:16
clinicians. We have multiple
34:19
specialists from across the board,
34:21
cardiologists, psychiatrists, reproductive endocrinologists, sexual
34:23
medicine specialists, orthopedic surgeons
34:27
for the frozen shoulder part of it in the musculoskeletal syndrome
34:29
of menopause who are saying, quiet
34:31
the noise. We're bonding together. Do we
34:33
agree 100% on everything? No, because
34:36
we're humans. But we are all
34:38
here realizing there's a
34:40
problem. We have bigger platforms.
34:42
We're going to educate. We're going to elevate each other.
34:45
So you always see me talking about other people's books,
34:48
sharing other people's videos, because
34:50
I don't want to hold the megaphone for
34:53
the rest of my life. You know, I feel like
34:55
this message, we are so much stronger together.
34:58
And the more brain power together. And
35:01
so I have 28 clinicians coming to
35:03
Galveston in January for the new menopause
35:05
conference. And it sold out in two and a
35:07
half days, 800 seats. We're going
35:09
to have a live stream digital option. It's going
35:11
to be insane, but it is
35:14
thought leaders. Tamson Vidal, who did the
35:16
menopause documentary, we have cardiologists, we have
35:18
Avram Blooming, we have oncologists really to
35:21
just set the record straight. So that
35:23
it's not for doctors. It is for
35:25
lots are coming. But it is for
35:27
lay people as a way to educate
35:29
and bring in all the voices and
35:32
let them ask their questions so that
35:34
we can elevate this. And women realize
35:36
they're not stuck. You can thrive at
35:38
this age. And so many women are
35:41
not. And they're being denied
35:43
good education and the opportunity to live their
35:46
best lives for the last third of their lives.
35:49
There's so many things that I profoundly
35:51
respect about you and your work. One
35:53
of them is I love how you
35:56
are constantly bringing up peer reviewed articles,
35:58
your democratizing. the information
36:00
in them, you're helping us understand it.
36:03
And I've seen moments where you've also
36:07
come on and said, hey, I've
36:10
said this in the past, here's a new study, it's
36:12
changed my thinking, I was wrong,
36:14
the new data convinces me that we need to think
36:16
about this differently, here's what I've learned and here's what
36:18
the new data say. I have
36:21
so much respect. And then I've
36:23
seen you not back down around reproductive rights.
36:25
No, just
36:28
last night from the comment
36:30
about execution after birth,
36:33
that's not a thing. That doesn't happen.
36:35
And as an obstetrician who has sat
36:37
at the bedside of
36:39
thousands of women in the most joyous,
36:41
the most horrible, the most gut wrenching,
36:44
the most mundane, I cannot,
36:46
every emotion, every possible scenario
36:49
at the bedside through the
36:51
birth of children. And
36:54
to accuse obstetricians of
36:56
execution of newborns is
37:00
ridiculous. So I reposted something
37:02
from a friend who's a reproductive endocrinologist. And
37:04
of course, my DMs were full this morning
37:07
of, I love you,
37:09
I love what you say, but
37:11
don't get political because I'm gonna have to
37:13
unfollow you. And I'm like, I will not
37:15
stand down. I will not
37:18
unfollow me, I don't care. No
37:20
obstetrician is executing newborn children.
37:23
That kind of rhetoric is so
37:26
insulting and harmful, not only to every
37:28
woman who's given birth in
37:30
every situation, but to the
37:32
healthcare providers who are out
37:34
there doing their absolute best,
37:36
sometimes with impossible laws and
37:38
situations. So, sorry,
37:40
I got so emotional, my ear pod fell out. It's
37:44
worth it. Abortion care is
37:46
healthcare. It always has
37:49
been, it always will be. It's
37:51
not for everyone. I respect your
37:53
decision, but until you have been
37:56
in the situation and stood at
37:58
the bedside of someone making
38:00
impossible choices and the fallouts from
38:02
that, you really don't have a
38:04
voice in this discussion.
38:08
Amen. Before
38:12
I get off this, not
38:16
just reproductive rights and abortion care
38:18
as health care, which I just
38:20
don't even understand the complexity of
38:22
that actually, I've been surprised
38:25
on your social media to see, I
38:30
want to understand it. This is
38:32
not an indictment. I'm really curious. Help
38:35
me understand, what do you make of the
38:38
pushback against some of your work from
38:41
male trainers? That
38:44
has been very surprising to me. Yeah.
38:48
Not all. I'll tell you right first of
38:50
all, not all. Amazing. Yeah. I have a
38:52
male trainer who's my age who
38:55
thought he was introducing me to your work. And
38:58
I'm like, no, I'm part of
39:01
the original MCH gang. So
39:03
not all male trainers, mine's
39:05
amazing. I have been surprised
39:07
by, I don't even know how
39:10
to stereotype, younger, I don't know
39:12
who they are. What's happening? They take
39:14
these courses to become
39:16
trainers. And some are accredited, some are
39:18
not. But they
39:20
are taught calories in, calories
39:23
out is
39:25
the way. I was taught that in medical
39:27
school. But still, but they're still taught that?
39:29
Not now. We now know that a person's
39:31
weight health is multifactorial.
39:36
It is not just calories in,
39:38
calories out. It is biopsychosocial. And
39:42
these trainers have been
39:44
taught, this is it. This is the system. This
39:46
is the way. Calories in, calories out. Women
39:50
for decades, me included. I
39:53
had thin privilege. Thin was healthy, Brené.
39:56
And as long as I was thin, I was good to go. Little
39:59
did I know. that constant caloric restriction
40:01
and cardio was eating away at my
40:03
bone and muscle strength for the critical
40:05
years of my life. And
40:07
that I should have been lifting heavy because
40:10
I'm a naturally low muscle person and
40:12
that muscle is what is going to
40:14
protect me from diabetes. So these
40:16
trainers calories in calories out, it's your fault
40:19
because you're lazy or you're just not trying
40:21
hard enough. And here I am sitting at
40:23
the bedside or sitting in the clinic. And
40:25
these women are swearing on a stack of
40:28
Bibles that they are calorically restricting. They're doing
40:30
all the things. And
40:32
the latest research in
40:34
women through the menopause transition is with
40:37
no changes in diet and exercise. You
40:41
go from so visceral fat, you have
40:43
a body composition change, undeniable science, meaning
40:46
where and how you just deposit
40:48
fat changes. I don't have to
40:50
tell a menopausal woman this, she knows. No, you don't even have
40:52
to, yeah, I got you, I got you. But the
40:54
math. I get it, I see it. You
40:56
have of your total body fat,
40:59
7% is visceral, which is intra-abdominal.
41:01
That is the dangerous fat. I'm not talking about
41:03
your curves. God gave you that, okay? Postmenopausal
41:06
through the transition goes up to 23%
41:08
on average, 23%. She
41:13
did nothing different. Her insulin resistance
41:15
increases as well as her LDL
41:17
drops and her LDL goes up.
41:19
So her cardiovascular disease risks increase.
41:22
There are these sweet, well-meaning trainers,
41:25
most of them, who
41:29
have built a billion dollar industry on
41:31
shame, on
41:34
shaming women that they're not trying hard enough,
41:36
they're not doing enough and creating these programs.
41:38
And the women are on little hamster wheels, trying,
41:41
trying, trying, trying, trying, trying, trying. And
41:43
the trainers are coming back and saying it has to work.
41:46
So now with modern science,
41:48
with GOP ones, with HRT,
41:50
with understanding female physiology and
41:53
what she's going through, I'm
41:56
not saying workout isn't important. It is. Calories
41:58
are important, but. It's much more complex
42:01
than that. I do see trainers now
42:03
starting to embrace this and I'm trying
42:05
to elevate their platforms and their voices
42:07
who are understanding. It is more than
42:09
that. But when I
42:11
see this egregious, absolute
42:14
shaming and people coming out and
42:16
saying, you're menopause is not a
42:18
thing. You're menopause is not causing
42:20
your weight gain. I don't
42:22
stand for it. And those are the funnest videos
42:24
I've ever made in my life. And
42:26
so because I've come out with- They are good
42:29
to watch. With article after article after research article
42:31
and I just pop them up. And then I
42:33
show pictures of visceral fat and I talk about
42:35
cardiovascular disease risk and has nothing to do with
42:38
your weight or your BMI. Well, very little, not
42:40
as much as your abdominal circumference and the amount
42:42
of visceral fat, not to say that how much
42:44
you weigh is not important. And so,
42:46
you know, getting women to
42:48
let go of this number on the
42:51
scale as a measure of their health and
42:53
their risk of chronic disease and their risk of
42:55
going into a nursing home is
42:57
so freeing. And so now in clinic,
42:59
we talk about eating more, not less.
43:02
Eating more protein, eating more fiber, eating
43:04
more fruits and vegetables, eating more plants,
43:06
instead of, oh, watch this cat, I
43:08
can't eat that. And
43:11
for myself, my patients are, it's
43:14
just a better, it's so freeing
43:16
mentally. So yeah, I'll keep coming
43:18
after them. They're getting quieter, but
43:21
it's threatening their industry. And
43:24
instead of embracing the woman on the GLP1 and
43:27
like how can I change the program to serve
43:29
her better so that she ends up healthier, a
43:32
woman on HRT or the combination, the
43:34
ones who are doing that successfully, the
43:36
women are flocking to them and they're
43:38
having much better outcomes with their programs.
43:42
I can feel the tide shifting. I mean,
43:44
I think when, a couple of things,
43:46
you know, when you've got my trainer, who's my age, saying,
43:49
you need to read about this menopause and
43:51
you know, Mary Haver's
43:53
really doing some good work over there and
43:55
she's down the street. And then
43:58
you've got Peter Atia, who's... who's kind
44:00
of a bros bro saying that what
44:02
we've done to women is the biggest
44:05
medical ball
44:07
drop in the last 100 years. And
44:10
then I saw someone on your page that
44:12
I thought was really interesting, where it was
44:14
a young trainer, super fit, what you'd
44:16
expect, saying, just imagine
44:19
if when guys turn 50, their
44:22
balls start shrinking. And this happens,
44:24
and this happens, we'd have a
44:26
billion dollars worth of products and research.
44:29
And then up pops your head. Now listen
44:31
to what he's saying. I'm
44:34
like, and I didn't know it
44:36
was a stitch from you, but then
44:38
when your head popped up, I was like, of course. And
44:41
look at her amplifying
44:43
the voices of people who are saying,
44:46
I care
44:48
enough about my coaching clients and training
44:50
clients to unlearn,
44:52
relearn, and own some stuff. That's
44:54
powerful, right? And I think you are responsible for
44:57
a lot of that. And you're a
44:59
menopossi. Really, I do.
45:01
We're trying, and we're trying to
45:03
walk the walk as well. Like
45:05
you see, like, we're CEO cellists willing. So
45:08
many of us are showing, we're actually out
45:10
here lifting weights and trying to put
45:12
more plants on our plate and make
45:14
sure we're getting adequate protein and really
45:17
trying to show what we're doing
45:19
to kind of set a course away
45:21
from what society
45:24
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45:26
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45:29
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46:46
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46:48
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46:50
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46:52
a link to it on the episode page.
46:54
But tell me what you're excited about in
46:56
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46:59
What's exciting for you? So at
47:02
the conference, we have about, according
47:04
to the director of the women's health
47:07
research at UTMB in Galveston, there's
47:09
about 50 medical students who want to present
47:12
on menopause. You know? Shut
47:15
up. From everything from metabolic, so my daughter's
47:17
working on the metabolic syndrome of menopause. Her
47:19
friends are doing some of the orthopedic data
47:21
and they realize they have a pretty high
47:23
chance of getting published, which is kind of
47:25
a big deal right now. They are like
47:28
going all in on this. So that kind
47:30
of thing, I'm super excited about. This next
47:32
generation, like, they don't put up with
47:34
anything. My kids hold me accountable for everything that comes
47:36
out of my mouth, especially on social
47:39
media. Seeing that enthusiasm, seeing
47:41
Gen X rise
47:43
up and say, I'm not going to
47:45
accept this. There's a better world for
47:47
me out there. I want this to be better for
47:49
the next generation. Like, they're not just so into
47:52
themselves. They really want better
47:54
health choices for their daughters, their
47:56
nieces, the younger females in their lives. That
47:59
excites me. Every time I see
48:01
Jennifer Weiss-Wolf or all of the legislative
48:03
stuff that's happening behind the scenes and
48:06
it's really bipartisan to improve
48:08
our health, you know, let's uncouple reproductive rights
48:10
for one minute. Yeah. Because
48:12
everything in women's health kind of gets skewed towards reproductive
48:16
health care, which is important, important,
48:18
100% important. But
48:20
I'd like to have a conversation about
48:22
the gender health gap and
48:25
that, you know, research, the studies not being
48:27
done in women. You know, let's look at
48:29
statins, Brené, and I'm not telling anyone to
48:31
throw their statins out the window, but
48:33
there is no data to
48:36
suggest that a statin in
48:38
a woman will decrease her primary risk
48:40
of a heart attack. It is not
48:42
preventative for women. It is for men.
48:45
Baby aspirin never been shown to be preventative
48:47
of a heart attack for women, only for men.
48:49
But yet we're routinely recommending this stuff all the
48:51
time. Ace inhibitors never been shown to be effective
48:53
for women, only for men. For
48:56
primary prevention of a heart attack. You know,
48:58
the cardiologists are not happy about this. They're
49:00
working on solutions, but yet today we're still
49:02
routinely recommending statins for every woman with high
49:05
cholesterol. You know what actually decreases your primary
49:07
risk of a heart attack? Is
49:10
HRT, starting young, within
49:13
the first 10 years of your menopause. So
49:17
that's the kind of thing more women are becoming
49:19
aware. They're not putting up with it. They're demanding
49:21
more research and study so that their health can
49:24
equal that of a man's and we not be
49:26
in the lower 20%. How
49:29
many crippled up mothers are
49:32
we gonna have to bury
49:35
before people start saying, what is happening?
49:38
I was in a conversation the other day with a
49:40
bunch of my girlfriends, and we're in our mid to
49:43
late fifties. And
49:45
they were talking about the stress
49:47
on their dad as caregivers and
49:49
how all of their fathers have become caregivers
49:52
for their mothers and how that's changed so
49:54
much. And I was like, yes,
49:56
that's hard. Can we talk
49:58
about why?
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